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a few words about kids

The other day I was reading one of my favorite blogs, 71 toes.  I have been following this blog for a couple of years and I feel like I know Shawni and her 5 adorable kids.  Her blog is a recording of her day to day life.

I recently read a post about a motherhood from a retreat she went on.  She jotted down some key points from one of the speakers, and these points struck a chord with me.  Sometimes we see or hear things when we need to.  I felt like these words jumped out to me as a reminder.  The universe is amazing in the way it presents wisdom into our lives at the times when we need to hear it.  I wanted to share these words of wisdom for all you moms and dads out there, as I believe if it hit home with me then it might hit home with you as well.  Shawni's notes are in black and my comments are noted in green.  

Here they are:

• Children value themselves to the degree they feel valued.

• Of course we love our children and we assume they know that.  But there is a difference between being loved and feeling loved.  So true!

• You are a psychological mirror that your children use to build their identity.

• Be aware of giving technology more attention than we give our children.  Do our eyes light up when our children enter a room?  They should!  This one struck a chord with me as I am usually on the computer when Eli gets up in the morning (Zoe is still sleeping).  Sometimes I am frantically trying to get a post out and on those days I just give him a quick hug as I am typing away on the computer.  I was never really a computer person and since I have started blogging, I'm becoming more attached to the computer, and I'm not sure I like that.  I love blogging, but I also want to "be there and be present" with my kids more.  So, I have decided to blog when they are at school, before they get up, and after they go to sleep.  I don't want them to think the computer is more important then my time with them. 

• Sometimes as mothers we habitually attend to what is missing or what is wrong instead of building up the good stuff.  The speaker told a story of when she got so frustrated with her son for forgetting things and missing the bus.  She dropped him off at the school with all the weight of her lecture weighing him down.  As she was about to take off, her younger son rolled down the window and called out to his older brother: "I love you!"  Have you had days like this when you are frantically racing around trying to get the kids off to school.  You're cranky because they are slow to get going or are forgetting/losing things?  I have had mornings like this and I feel terrible after as I've sent my kids off to school feeling sad or angry.  That's really not a great way to start the day.  We have to sometimes remember that these are kids and they have only been on this earth for 12 or 7 years in my case.  We've had 40 years (in my case) to learn these things, lets give them a break and ease up a bit.  They are more important than the things they are losing or being late for, right?  

• Kids are such a work in progress...we should put ourselves in their shoes.  So true!  They are kids, and they're learning so much at all times.  Remember, they need time to play and just be kids.  Let's not rush them to be adults or over extend them so that they never know what "down time" is.  Kids need to get bored in order to get creative.  If they never sit and get quiet with themselves, then how are they going to learn about themselves.  My kids had plenty of downtime this summer, and there was plenty of complaining of being bored in the beginning, but by the end of the summer, they were following their bliss and creating and playing.  They figured it out!

• Find the goodness in each child and build that up.  Reinforce the good parts of the day and how they made you feel.  We all need positive feedback, right?  WOW, I so get this.  I love when I get a compliment and hear psotive feedback.  Think about how wonderful we feel when someone says a kind word, now think about how great our kids feel when their parent says something nice.  We mean the world to our kids, and hearing something nice with a smile attached can make all the difference in the world.  

• Compliment kids in front of the other kids...pray about how grateful you are for them with them at your side. This part comes naturally to me, and I know how much it means for kids to hear praise from other adults besides their parents. Some of my greatest compliments and the ones that really motivated me came from parents of my friends and from my teachers.  

• Undivided attention with each child is so important!  I so try and do this often.  I love the time I get with both Zoe, and Eli and I know it makes a difference to them.  Not having to compete with the other sibling and talk all they want about whatever they want and for however long, makes a HUGE difference in their day.  

• We are all encumbered and frazzled by so many things.  We need to be sure that we acknowledge that those sweet children are so much more important than a phone call, email, blog post, etc.  YES, YES, YES.  This is a great reminder.  We as parents in this technology driven society need to be reminded of this.  

Anyway, these words inspired me and I feel like they might inspire you as well.  

Kid's first day of school

Today is a bit bittersweet as the kids started school.  This summer totally flew by.  I'm sure all parents out there all say the same thing, but time goes too quickly for me at times. I wish I could slow it down so that each year was really like 10 years.  Wouldn’t that be great?  We had such a great lazy summer just relaxing and sleeping in, that I'm a bit sad to get back to the chaotic routine that the school year brings.  I know that once I get in the swing of things, it will all be good and fun.

Zoe starts 7th grade this year!  I have a 7^th grader!  I still can't get over that!  7th grade seems so grown up and its only 2 years away from high school.  Ok, so not ready for that. Zoe is super excited to start school, like over the top excited!  She’s totally like me in the sense that she was so organized (well a bit over organized) for day one.  She had her backpack filled to the brim with everything she could possibly need, and the cutest part, is that she was going over her checklist out loud this morning, just like I do before a trip.  I stopped and listened to her as she was reciting everything she needed, and laughed to myself because she picked up that habit from me.  The kid’s in her grade received their schedules yesterday, so friends were calling all day checking to see if they were in the same classes. It was so energizing and brought back happy memories for me. She is excited that she got a ton of classes with her friends and a great schedule overall.  

Eli starts 2nd grade this year. I honestly can't believe that as well. He got a male teacher named, Mr. Lescoe, and he was a bit nervous about it, as he has never had a male teacher before.  Zoe and I reminded him that some of our favorite teachers were male teachers, so that helped him a bit.  I think he equates a male teacher with being strict or something.  He is psyched that he is yet again with his best buddy, Oliver, (3 years in a row) so that helped him get a bit more excited.  He is also psyched that he finally gets his own desk with his very own supply kit!  That brought a smile to his face as we entered the classroom this morning. The simple things in life, right?  I tried to get a photo of him in front of his desk, but he was not going for it. I will try and get a photo when I pick him up today.  

Well, that’s all for now.  I'm sorry I haven’t posted on this blog for sometime. I’ve been super busy with my cooking blog, but plan on visiting and posting here more often with updates and thoughts.  Ok, I'm off to make the kid's favorite brownies for the first day of school celebration, and get my life and house organized again!

Ski week..

This is a snapshot of what we did over ski week.  As you can see from the photo's below, we did not do any skiing!

Eli decided to get dressed up, bow tie and all!

 This led to the kids creating a movie mystery about the disappearance of kids at a boarding school.  Eli played the strict headmaster.  See how serious Eli is as the headmaster?  Zoe played a bratty schoolgirl.

Our houseguest.

Ahhh, there is nothing sweeter than a boy and his dog.  Ahem, I mean to say a boy and his best friend's dog.  Yes, we are getting our dog fix in by babysitting Barkley.  Barkley is the dog we babysit when we need our dog fix.  He is little, cute, doesn't shed and is the easiest dog ever.  The perfect houseguest ;)

Eli is pleading, "mommy can we keep him?"

The weather was 78 degrees yesterday so Eli and I took Barkley on a 2-hour walk after school.  I think we wiped the little guy out as he came home and crashed on our couch the rest of the day.

Summer in January, oh yeah!!!

The weather reached the low 70's the other day so the kids and I decided to hit the pool.  As you can see, Eli was not holding back...

It was the perfect day and honestly we all felt like we were on a vacation.  I read Gone with the Wind while lounging in the pool chaise with the warm sun beating down on me. 

I know people are fearful of this warm weather pattern but this is a gift from mother earth.

She is telling us to get away from our screens and get outside and play.  

There is nothing to fear with the current blissful weather pattern.  

We have had a few hard years with the tough economy and the crazy snows and rains. 

We have gotten use to thinking that winters are suppose to be hard and bleak as well as life.

This is our repreive. 

This is the new winter, new life.

We will get our snow and rain but not in the excess that we have been experiencing years past.  

It will be enough but just enough to sustain and grow what we need.

Lets all stop fearing what is happening and instead go out and enjoy it.  

This is the year of miracles and change.

Stop holding onto the old ways of living and reflecting on how things are suppose to be and start inventing new ways of living.

Life is about change and variety.

We can all learn a bit from watching kids.  

They take life by the reigns and go for it.

Look at Eli as an example, he is jumping in feet first!

Give it a try!